Showing posts with label military spouse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label military spouse. Show all posts

Thursday, October 9, 2014

#LashesNLemonade Veteran's Day Charity Event, November 9-11, 2014

We are very humbled to announce #LashesNLemonade, Veterans Day Charity Event, November 9-11, 2014 from 9:30am to 6:30pm in Clinton, Maryland 20735.  It will be a day of pampering for Women Veterans, Active Duty Women, Military Spouses, Military Widows, all services provided by Ms. Kobe Ellis, Owner of EBK Beauty, Jacksonville, FL. Kobe will provide deeply discounted eyelash, eyebrow services to women veterans and those that serve along side their spouse. All women are eligible to participate, however the prices will be slightly higher for others. The Warford Foundation, Inc will receive a portion of all proceeds for BeautyBrainsBelief Mentoring & Project Impact Scholars Programs.

The following services will be provided at deep discount for Veterans:

Semi Permanent Lashes: (Lasts 4-6wks) $150
Bottom Semi Perm Lashes: (Lasts 4-5wks) $90
Flare Lashes: (Lasts up to 3wks) $35
Micro Lashes: (Lasts up to 4wks) $65
Hideaway Lashes: (Lasts up to 2wks) $25
Brow Threading $20
Temp. Brow Tattoos $25
Eyebrow Extensions: (Lasts 4-6wks) $300

Estimated time associated with each service:
Semi Permanent Lashes 2hrs
EyeBrow Extensions 2hrs
Flare Lashes 30 min
Bottom lashes 30 min
Micro Lashes 45 min
Hideaway Lashes 15 min
Threading 10 min
Brow Tattoos 15 min

Interested in booking for your LashesNLemonade pampering session, contact Kobe Ellis, ebkbeauty@gmail.com or call (904) 392-1278. Appointments are highly suggested services can take up to 2hrs in some cases, they will go fast so book NOW! At the time of booking you are required to pay a deposit to secure your appointment. Non-Veteran pricing will be given upon request.

Friday, October 7, 2011

Being depressed disconnects the brain’s "hate circuit"


http://marcwhitehead.visibli.com/share/5VaTCs

Depression is the most common mental illness, but there's still a lot we don't know about how the condition affects the brain. But now, a new MRI study reveals that depression deactivates vital pieces of brain circuitry... including, surprisingly, the region that controls hatred.

Researchers at the UK's University of Warwick performed MRI scans on 39 depressed people and 37 control subjects who didn't have the condition. They were able to pinpoint several key differences in the brain circuitry between the two groups. Most of these centered on the uncoupling of connections between various parts of the brain. Normally, these connections form circuits that allow the different areas to work together to produce more complex mental processes. With the circuits uncoupled, the brain should have a harder time performing the related mental tasks.

That's why it's so strange that the so-called "hate circuit" - a circuit connecting the superior frontal gyrus, insula, and putamen that was shown in 2008 to be strongly associated with feelings of hatred - was often uncoupled in the depressed subjects. The researchers discovered this by showing the subjects pictures of people they hated. While the non-depressed people showed clear activity in this hate circuit, most of the depressed people showed no such response. In fact, the hate circuit was 92% more likely to be decoupled in the depressed subjects.

There were similarly high odds of deactivation for the risk and action circuit (92%) and the emotion and reward circuit (82%), but neither of those is really surprising in terms of the general behavior patterns of people dealing with depression, which is often associated with an unwillingness to take risks and difficulty feeling positive emotions. But since depression is known to be associated with self-loathing - which is very much a form of hatred - then how could that fit with the hate circuit being deactivated?

Researcher Jianfeng Feng has a theory:

"The results are clear but at first sight are puzzling as we know that depression is often characterized by intense self loathing and there is no obvious indication that depressives are less prone to hate others. One possibility is that the uncoupling of this hate circuit could be associated with impaired ability to control and learn from social or other situations which provoke feelings of hate towards self or others. This in turn could lead to an inability to deal appropriately with feelings of hate and an increased likelihood of both uncontrolled self-loathing and withdrawal from social interactions. It may be that this is a neurological indication that is more normal to have occasion to hate others rather than hate ourselves."

Via Molecular Psychiatry. Image by Viktoriya/Shutterstock.

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Suicide in America

Suicide is a major public health concern. Around 30,000 people die by suicide each year in the United States. More people die by suicide each year than by homicide.

Suicide is tragic. But it is often preventable. Knowing the risk factors for suicide and who is at risk can help reduce the suicide rate.

Who is at risk for suicide?

Suicide does not discriminate. People of all genders, ages, and ethnicities are at risk for suicide. But people most at risk tend to share certain characteristics. The main risk factors for suicide are:

--Depression, other mental disorders, or substance abuse order
--A prior suicide attempt
--Family history of mental disorder or substance abuse
--Family history of suicide
--Family violence, including physical or sexual abuse
--Having guns or other firearms in the home
--Incarceration, being in prison or jail
--Being exposed to others' suicidal behavior, such as that of family members, peers, or media figures

The risk for suicidal behavior also is associate with changes in brain chemicals called neurotransmitters, including serotonin, which is also associated with depression. Lower levels of serotonin have been found in the brains of people with a history of suicide attempts.

Many people have some of these risk factors but do not attempt suicide. Suicide is not a normal response to stress. It is however, a sign of extreme distress, not a harmless bid for attention.

What about gender?
Men are more likely to die by suicide than women, but women are more likely to attempt suicide. Men are more likely to use deadlier methods, such as firearms or suffocation. Women are more likely than men to attempt suicide by poisoning.

What about children?
Children and young people are at risk for suicide. Year after year, suicide remains one of the top three leading causes of death for young people ages 15 to 24.

What about older adults?
Older adults are at risk for suicide, too. In fact, white males age 85 and older consistently have the highest suicide risk than any other age and ethnic group.

What about different ethnic groups?
Among ethnicities, American Indians and Alaska Natives tend to have the highest rate of suicides, followed by non-Hispanic Whites. Hispanics tend to have the lowest rate of suicides, while African Americans tend to have the second lowest rate.

How can suicide be prevented?
Effective suicide prevention is based on sound research. Programs that work take in account people's risk factors and promote interventions that are appropriate to specific groups of people. For example, research has shown that mental and substance abuse disorders are risk factors for suicide. Therefore, many programs focus on treating these disorders in addition to addressing suicide risk specifically.

Psychotherapy, or "talk therapy," can effectively reduce suicide risk. One type is called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT can help people learn new ways of dealing with stressful experiences by training them to consider alternative actions when thoughts of suicide arise.

Another type of psychotherapy called dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) has been shown to reduce the rate of suicide among people with borderline personality disorder, a serious mental illness characterized by unstable moods, relationships, self-image, and behavior. A therapist trained in DBT helps a person recognize when his or her feelings or actions are disruptive or unhealthy, and teaches the skills needed to deal better with upsetting situations.

Some medications may also help. For example, the anti-psychotic medication clozapine is approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for suicide prevention in people with schizophrenia. Other promising medications and psychosocial treatments for suicidal people are being tested.

Still other research has found that many older adults and women who die by suicide saw their primary care providers in the year before death. Training doctors to recognize signs that a person may be considering suicide may help prevent even more suicides.

What should I do if someone I know is considering suicide?
If you know someone who is considering suicide, do not leave him or her alone. Try to get your loved one to seek immediate help from his or her doctor or the nearest hospital emergency room, or call 911. Remove any access he or she may have to firearms or other potential tools for suicide, including medications.

If you are in crisis
Call the toll-free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The service is available to anyone. All calls are confidential.

National Institute of Mental Health
Scientific Writing, Press Dissemination Branch
6001 Executive Boulevard
Room 8184, MSC 9663
Bethesda, Maryland 20892-9663
Phone: (301) 443-4513 or 1-866-615-NIMH (6464) toll-free
Email: nimhinfo@nih.gov
Website: www.nimh.nih.gov

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Military Widow Katie Hubbard's Love Story


James and I met at his civilian job (he was in the Army Reserves for the last 28 years of his career) at a jail. He was a supervisor on first shift, and I was a newly hired correctional specialist on second, but did all my overtime on first. The first time I met him, I was intrigued. What a good looking man! The first week I was there in training (the last part of March 2005), the supervisors were undergoing taser training. He got teased and sounded just like Chewbacca. It cracked me up and became an easy way to tease him.

We started talking when I did my overtime as I was usually a rover (not assigned to a module and therefore had direct communication with the supervisors) and we got along quite well. That July he asked me to come over to watch a movie on my days off. I agreed but we weren’t able to exchange numbers until the next week due to an incident that came up right then. So on July 26, 2005 I came over to his house to watch a movie and hang out. I knew then there was something between us. We started talking everyday after that and were together. Though we couldn’t be open about our relationship at the time.

Through our talks, I learned a lot about him. He was raised in Georgia, where he attended an all black school before integration happened. He was then drafted at the age of 20 in September 1972. He signed his enlistment papers Oct. 24 of that year and stayed on Active Duty until Sept. of 1980 when he switched over to the Army Reserves. Feb. 2003 he was called up as part of Operation Iraqi Freedom 1 with the 450th Movement Control Battalion out of Manhattan, KS. He was based out of Talil, Iraq, though traveled throughout the country. He came home March 2004 and his blood work was crazy! They told him to see his civilian provider and so he did and was sent to a blood specialist.

The specialist monitored his blood work, but never really said much to him. During this time issues of post traumatic stress disorder arose and he was VERY angry. He was able to control it a bit as time went on, but the issues were still there. He was monitored for a few months then let go with no further information given. When we met in 2005, he was doing better, but certain things were triggers for him. He was still very physically fit, especially for a man in his mid 50s and was able to keep up with this young 20’s girl! As our relationship grew, his ability to run was getting harder and harder and he struggled with it. We chalked it up to his age (he was 53 when we first met) and didn’t think much about it.

In Feb 12, 2007 we went and got legally married, and 7 weeks later on April 7 had our wedding. He was set to deploy with the 139th Medical Group out of Independence, MO to Kosovo as part of Task Force Med Falcon XIV, KFOR9 that summer. He started trainings and deployed late summer. He was in Kosovo until July 2008. During this time he mentioned how “humping those hills” over there was taking his breath away. When he got home, we figured his fatigue was due to age, the time and altitude changes, and didn’t think much of it. We were newly weds, he was healthy (never taking a pill), and we had plans. He went to the VA hospital that Sept. to begin post deployment check-up.

After a few appointments they did blood work. A couple days later we were called and told he needed to come back that the test results were odd and wanted to repeat them. When those results came back they called panicked saying that he needed to come in right then and may be hospitalized! We were confused! He being who he was said he’d come in a few days later. When we did they had us see a hematologist who stated that his counts were low and they wanted to schedule a bone marrow biopsy. The doctor said he thought it was most likely a parasite, but a slim chance for cancer, but if it was it wasn’t the bad kind (is there such a thing as a good cancer?). They wanted to do the biopsy the next weekend, but he had a military thing with the Brigade’s General and said they’d have to wait until he got back.

So on the anniversary of 36 years of service he had his biopsy. We were told we’d hear back in 3 weeks the results. So on Nov. 14, 2008 we were called into the room and the doctor said he had Leukemia, but they weren’t sure if it were Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia or Bi-lineagal Acute Mylogenous Leukemia. We were in shock! He had no family history of any cancers! The doctor said that they were seeing an increase in the number of soldiers coming back from Iraq with Leukemia's and other cancers and that based on his history (the funky blood work, where he was based, his age, and the type of cancer) that he got his cancer from his tour in Iraq!

Our world was rocked to the core! How could this be?!?! So we fought to use his civilian insurance because the VA they wanted us to use was unacceptable! The doctor wouldn’t answer questions, he told me not to ask things, and the place was just not good. They only gave a 60% survival rate too. So we got to MD Anderson in Houston, TX and met with the doctor in Feb. 2009. She gave him a 90-95% survival rate! We were hopeful that this was the path we were meant to be and that we could really start our lives together. We started treatment the next week. When we started treatment he had 85% leukemia blasts in his blood. After cycle 2, he was down to 0.6%!! In cycle 4 the doctor said that after cycle 5 we would do another biopsy and if his levels were 0.00% then no transplant would be needed, anything higher and he would. They also changed his antibiotic that cycle. When we saw the doctor on May 19, I expressed my concern with his severe diarrhea and the doctor said take more Imodium and see you in a few weeks. We came home like we did after every cycle.

On the 21st I went to see my dad and James stayed home as he was exhausted as normal. I came home that afternoon and James asked me to hurry home as he had an accident and needed help. I helped clean him up, got him some applesauce to eat and some water to drink and brought it to him. He fell over on the bed and just wasn’t right. I called 9-1-1 and they arrived shortly after. While waiting for them, I took his hand, told him I loved him and not to leave me. That I couldn’t live without him. EMS arrived and I explained the situation and told them he wanted to live!!! As soon as they kicked me out of our room, he stopped breathing and they began working on him. I was looking for his med list and just going crazy.. Having my heart beat out of my chest, breaking with every beat. One of the workers came downstairs to go to the ambulance to get something and I stated “He’s not breathing is he?” and the guy said no. I knew he was gone. They brought him downstairs and out to the ambulance and they left for the hospital, leaving me to follow in my own vehicle!

I got to the hospital and was prevented from going into the ER. The doctor came and asked me a few questions while I registered him. A few minutes later he came and told me he was gone. He tried asking more things and all I kept saying was could I be with him. I went into the room and sat there with my handsome husband. My world crashing all around and my future was black. As I sat there with him waiting for my family and having to call his grown sons to let them know the horrible news, our life flashed in front of me. At 6:10pm on May 21, 2009 my husband was pronounced dead. The following days the arrangements were made, the house cleaned, and the funeral planned. He left behind his sons, Ja'Vaughn and Ashton, and grandson Keegan after serving 36 years, 6 months, and 27 days in the military with no breaks in service.

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Military Wives Saving

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